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Learning to Write: The Correct Way to Teach Kids

Every parent wants to help their child learn how to read and write successfully, but when is the right time to teach your preschooler to write?

Well, actually, you shouldn’t be teaching your young child to write formally. Instead, you should be teaching them important foundational skills instead.

Here are the reasons why, and also how to teach a kid to write, beginning with pre-writing activities.

The Process of Learning to Write

There are several reasons why teaching your child to write too early will actually do more harm than good.

It is important to leave the formal writing instruction to your child’s school or, if homeschooling, start when your child is in the formal grades.

Why should you hold off on formal writing instruction?

Your child is simply not ready yet.

Children learn by being stimulated at their developmental level, through play. When they learn at their own level, they naturally progress and mature, developing more advanced skills as they go.

A child is not yet physically and developmentally ready to write during the preschool years. They will start experimenting with letters on their own and “writing” on their artwork, but they should not be forced to hold a pencil and form the letters correctly on a line.

Fine Motor Control

Child writing

During the first few years, children are developing their fine motor control. Their finger muscles need to be strengthened through activities such as drawing, painting, playing with playdough, etc.

Pencil Grip

When the finger muscles become strengthened, children learn how to hold a pencil correctly, with a tripod grip. This is not easy for young children and they take time to develop this grip by holding crayons, chalk, pencils, etc.

The younger they are, the thicker the utensil must be (e.g. jumbo chalk). As they develop their grip and finger control, they can hold thinner crayons and pencils. 

Child writing letters

Gross Motor Control

Gross motor control means children are able to move and control their bodies. In order to sit and write at a desk, they must have strong core muscles, good posture and not tire easily.

The Natural Way of Developing

As children grow, the natural way of developing is always large to small. Here are some examples:

  • Large muscles before small muscles
  • They can catch large balls before small ones
  • They can draw with large paintbrushes before holding small ones
  • Books for younger children have larger letters than advanced books
  • Puzzles with large pieces are for younger children

This same principle must be applied to learning to write. Letters should be introduced in large before small. It is completely inappropriate to expect a young child to form a small intricate letter properly.

You can teach your child to write their name by introducing the letters through play and in a large format before writing them on paper.

Spatial Perception

Children develop spatial perception when playing by doing things like climbing through tunnels and chasing each other.

This helps them, much later, to space letters and words correctly on a page – next to each other, on the line, straight, small enough, starting next to the margin, etc.

Learning to Form Patterns

When formal writing is introduced at school, the teacher does not dive in and show the children how each letter is formed. They start with patterning.

They make zigzags and waves and all sorts of patterns on thick lines for a few weeks before starting the letters. These patterns all have shapes that teach the movements that children will use in the letters. A capital “A”, for example, has a zig-zag in it and a “C” can be introduced with a curly wave pattern.

When they have learned to make these patterns, letters are introduced, one at a time, with separate lessons for each letter.

The teacher will explain the formation for each one e.g. Start at the top right, go up and around, all the way back up, then down the same line. Children must use the proper formation each time they write a letter.

It does not make sense to skip all these educational practices and teach your young child the letters out of the blue.

How to Teach a Kid to Write

Drawing on a blackboard

The good news is, there are lots of things you can do to teach your child the necessary foundational skills they need. This will ensure that when they are ready, they will learn to write naturally and with ease.

  • Expose your child to print often and talk about the print (road signs, books, etc.)
  • Model the correct letter formation when writing and put their name on the top of their drawings (First letter in uppercase, all the rest in lowercase).
  • Develop your child’s fine motor skills.
  • Encourage your child to draw, paint and hold utensils frequently.
  • Develop your child’s gross motor skills.
  • Correct your child’s pencil grip or use a rubber pencil grip.
  • Let your children have lots of time for free play.
  • Play with letters such as wooden or plastic letters.

Sources:

Hendrick, H. 1990. Total Learning: Developmental Curriculum for the Young Child. Third Edition. Macmillan Publishing Company: New York.

Pieterse, M. 2007. Language and School Readiness. Metz Press: Welgemoed.


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Olusola Aladejebi

Monday 25th of October 2021

Your piece is just so lovely and instructive!

Thanks.

Tanja Mcilroy

Monday 25th of October 2021

Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it. Tanja

allison

Sunday 16th of May 2021

Can you share your sources to this post?

Tanja Mcilroy

Monday 17th of May 2021

Hi Allison, apologies - this was one of my first posts on my website and I have since made it my practice to quote all sources. I have added them to the end of the post. Thanks for reading!

Linds

Tuesday 19th of January 2021

If letters have already been introduced at age 4, and writing has been freely practiced (but not drilled or perfected) by tracing letters incorrectly - how can that be remedied early while they are still young before formal school begins?

Tanja Mcilroy

Thursday 21st of January 2021

Hi Linds. Thanks for your comment. At this young age, I would not worry. Simply shift focus to playing with letters freely (like fridge magnets or letters in the bath), or learning just the letters of their name with these kinds of sensory activities https://empoweredparents.co/name-writing-practice/ If they initiate any kind of writing or tracing on their own, that is a normal part of "drawing" and they can be left to it. By the time they are ready for formal writing, they will probably not remember previous formal instruction and be more receptive to learning the correct formation (they will be more likely to remember messy play letters that engage all the senses). Hope that helps a bit! Tanja

Gisele

Sunday 18th of October 2020

What about kids at the age of 3 that love letters and numbers and start writing them without any adult pressure? Should we interfere?

Tanja Mcilroy

Sunday 18th of October 2020

Hi Gisele, good question! No, if they are experimenting with writing numbers and letters on their own then that is wonderful and they should be left to experience it in their own way. The interest is coming from the child so it becomes meaningful and a real learning experience. The child may even start asking about the letters or telling you what they "wrote". Then go with it! It's only the act of sitting a child down to "practise" writing letters before they have the maturity to make sense of them that is not age-appropriate and not a natural way to learn. Experimenting with shapes and letters is part of the stages of drawing development, which slowly morphs into writing. Thanks, Tanja!

Kristien Bahumi

Saturday 26th of September 2020

Its so very important to learn cause us as Teachers and practitioners or Care givers have understand the steps of Free play in a childs life.Its really interesting

Tanja Mcilroy

Tuesday 29th of September 2020

Thank you for your comment Kristien!

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