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How to Teach a Child to Write Their Name: 7 Steps

If you want to learn how to teach a child to write their name for the first time, it can be tempting to whip out a piece of paper and start tracing letters. 

If your child is still in preschool, she needs to develop important pre-writing skills before moving onto pen and paper.

Read on to find out how you can go about preparing your child and eventually teaching her how to confidently and correctly write her name.

When Should a Child be Able to Write Their Name?

Firstly, you may be wondering if your 3-year-old should be able to write their name or why you are practising so often and your child is still not properly writing it.

It’s important to understand that children first start randomly forming and experimenting with letters as part of the developmental stages of drawing.

Scribbles and lines turn into loops and spirals and then shapes.

At some point, between 2 and 4, shapes that vaguely resemble letters start to emerge (like the capital letter T or V). These are not yet necessarily formed on purpose.

At around the age of 4, your child will probably start to “write” on his drawings, which means he is experimenting with forming letters he sees often – in his environment, his name written on his artwork, etc.

He may proudly announce that he is writing. Your child is probably more exposed to his name than any other word if it’s written on his belongings, his artwork and especially if a parent is trying to practise it often.

The simple answer is don’t worry about it. There is no age that your child must know how to write his name. It will probably start emerging around 4 years, maybe a little earlier or later.

If your child is too young developmentally to be expected to write, then the same applies to his name.

While it is inappropriate to start teaching and expecting your child to write, it is understandable that you may want to practise just his name.

There are ways to do this that are fun and developmentally appropriate and that will not cause stress or worse, boredom!

Should Children Write their Names with Capital Letters

It is easier for a young child to learn their name in capital letters first, as these are made up of simpler lines and curves.

Your child will also experience more success when actually being able to form the capital letters.

While many still believe in only capitalizing the first letter, this article on teaching capital letters first is an excellent explanation on why it’s best not to introduce a young child to lower-case letters.

The occupational therapist states:

“No matter how excellent the instruction, not all five-year-olds have the underlying spatial-temporal perceptions or visual motor skills to support learning lowercase.”

When a child learns to form the letters incorrectly, it becomes more difficult later on to form the letters properly.

Here is a common example of how children write a letter ‘a’ when they don’t have fine motor control yet, or they have not been taught the correct formation.

They tend to draw a circle and then attach a line or stroke onto the side. This will not be an easy habit to undo.

Letter a

Here is an example of how to teach your child an older child the correct formation. Start at the top, go around to the left, all the way back up, then straight down.

This particular font has a flick at the bottom. Some schools use a font similar to this, or one where the ‘a’ has a straight line without a flick.

This does not matter too much. It is more important to focus on the correct direction and not lifting the pencil to form the line going down.

Letter a

How Do You Teach a Child to Write Their Name?

Writing is a process of developing many skills, and the very last step in that process is writing letters on a piece of paper with a pencil or pen.

Children begin writing by the first grade because by then they have developed the necessary fine motor control to write correctly and control their pencil.

For preschool children, the first step in the puzzle is to develop their fine and gross motor skills, and later to start learning to write their name by being introduced to letters in many different informal ways.

Put away the worksheets, boring traceables, online apps and any other activity that isn’t play-based.

There’s a reason children are wired to play for the first few years of their life. It’s how they learn. Everything else is a waste of time.

Here is a quick breakdown of the steps involved in teaching your child to write their name.

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1. Develop General Fine and Gross Motor Skills

In order for children to be able to write – a skill that requires fine motor control – they need to first develop their gross motor skills. Think of this as starting large and going smaller over time.

Gross motor skills can be built through everyday movement and play activities. Children should experience movements such as climbing, running, swinging, jumping, skipping and playing with balls.

They will naturally develop these muscles during free play and you can also play games with your children to specifically work on these skills.

Children develop their gross motor skills first and later their small muscles strengthen. Fine motor activities include drawing, painting, playing with beads, using pegboards, threading, lacing, etc.

These are all vitally important as children must have good muscle control before they can hold a pencil and write.

Start with these fine motor skills toys you probably already have at home.

2. Let Your Child See Their Name Often

An important step in learning to write a name is name recognition.

A child who sees her name often will start to understand what it represents, imprint it in her memory, and have greater success when attempting to write it.

Write your child’s name on the top left-hand corner of her pictures. This also teaches how we write from from left to right, top to bottom (in English).

Label her belongings, her bedroom door if possible and any other places that are appropriate.

To help you teach the letters, print your child’s full name out in big on a piece of paper or banner and keep it visible during all the following activities.

3. Walk the Letters

Using chalk, draw one letter at a time of your child’s name in huge letters on concrete or paving. The letters should be big enough for your child to walk around them.

Practise correct formation by starting in the correct place and moving along the letter in the correct sequence. Use language to explain the formation.

Let’s start here. Walk all the way up. Turn around and go down all the way to the bottom.

4. Use Messy Play

Messy play is the best way to teach name recognition and writing. Focus most of your attention on these kinds of activities.

Try to use all the senses if possible – touch, sound, smell, taste and sight. When more senses are incorporated, the concepts are learned quicker and associations are made.

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The messier this activity is, the more likely your child will remember the letters they were playing with and their shapes.

  • Use a large paintbrush dipped in water to trace over medium-sized letters drawn in chalk on the paving.
  • Form letters in shaving cream.
  • Form letters in a tray of sand or in the sandpit.
  • Bake letter cookies.
  • Say the letter sounds out loud as you form them (not the name ‘bee’ but the sound ‘b’).
  • Write the letters on big pieces of sandpaper and get your child to trace them. Feeling the rough texture is an excellent way to imprint the formation in your child’s mind.
  • Use finger paint to trace over letters on large paper.
  • Using playdough, build each letter in the name. Try making something that starts with that sound.
Clay letter T

5. Play with Letters

Let your child play with plastic, foam, rubber or wooden letters.

Feel the letters and trace them with your fingers. Build your name with the letters. Say the sound of each letter.

Fridge magnets are a great way to play with and feel letter shapes.

Foam alphabet

6. Do Pre-Writing Exercises

Making lines and patterns is a great way to introduce the shapes and formations found in letters. Here is a quick video with some pre-writing exercises you can try.

7. Start Tracing Letters

When your child is older (and ready) and you have practised letters in multiple ways, they can start tracing big letters on paper.

  • Print each letter onto an A4 paper.
  • Get your child to trace over each letter with their finger.
  • Ask them to trace that letter onto your back.
  • Then take coloured wax crayons and trace the letters a few times.

Over time, you can start to decrease the size of the letters. Print your child’s name in grey letters or dotted letters and ask them to trace the letters in pencil.

Later, write their name softly on their work and get them to trace over it, until they are writing it independently, using the correct formation.

If your child experiments with writing their name before the process is complete, don’t stop them. Allow them to experiment with writing freely.

Remember to have fun and let your child progress through the steps at his own pace.


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Andrea

Saturday 2nd of May 2020

This information is terrific! I totally agree with everything you advocate - let our kids learn from ground level (motor skills) and move up, brick by brick, with practice as the cement between the bricks. Move too fast and the bricks will wobble because they don't have the practice to keep the new skills balanced. Try to push ahead without the structural bricks in order and you are guaranteeing a collapse later on!

Tanja Mcilroy

Saturday 2nd of May 2020

I love your analogy Andrea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Tanja

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